Update: After talking with my hubby and and the both of us praying I wake up this morning thanking God for all that he has done and that I feel it is a blessing to be able to reach other people in the world through my blog. I am not claiming to be a proverbs/titus 2 woman that is perfect, I am trying to live for Jesus just like everyone else and that is why I let my blogging friends see the good and the bad on my blog, like I said one time before I am not perfect and yes I make mistakes, I get ill, I scream sometimes and everything else, but this walk that i have with God is what I am really focused on because I do want to go to heaven to be with him. So I would like to thank each and everyone for their comments and e-mails because some of you are right I need to pick nicknames for my family members but I will continue to do videos and pictures of my family because I truly believe that god will protect me and my family from and harm or danger because in his word he states :
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD. Isaiah 54:17. I just want everyone to know that I am not offended by any of the comments that were left about my blog I was just sad that some people could be so cruel to others. So I am not going to stop blogging I will continue as long as God allows or when he tells me to stop. Well hello to each and everyone...I just wanted to let everyone know that I may discontinue my blog because I have been getting alot of e-mails from people that have told me that I have give out to much of my personal information on my site. I will have to say that they all may just be right. I may just start up a new blog and try to be more aware because there are some crazy people in the world. I am going to pray on this situation for awhile and talk to my hubby about it and see what he says...But I would like to thank all the ones that e-mail me showing your concern, it lets me know that there are still wonderful people in the world. I have also got some not so nice e-mails that really hurt my feelings and my hubby told me not to stress over it to much but I don't mind when people have their opinions about my blog but it bothers me when they leave ugly comments, I received an e-mail last week for an anonymous person that said that my blog seem to them to be superficial and fake. well that really hurt my heart because I have always tried to show the true me and no one else. But anywhoo if I don't take the blog down I will be deleting all the videos and anything with my personal information in it like my children names, what state I live in etc...and don't worry I know some of you already have it but at least no one else will have it....But for now I am going to try a break from blogging so that I can think about what I need to do next. Thank you so much guys and be blessed.
32 comments:
First thing you need to do is take down the ability for people to leave anonymous comments.
Terrible people that are too cowardly use that as a tool to be mean.
Anyone can say anything and be as mean as they want when they know the person they have offended can't respond back to them.
There are mean and hateful people in the world. The anonymous identity works very well for them.
I really hope that you don't stop blogging. I've always loved your videos and will be sad to see them go.
All the best to you and your family. Whatever you decide.
I just hope that you don't let the opinions of people that are just trying to hurt you stop you from blogging. Believe me, we've all had them. That is why I took off the ability for people to leave anonymous comments.
If you don't have the guts to say it to me with an identity then you don't get to say it.... :P
((Hugs))
Laura
Oh, I really hope you stay around! I think you're one of the few "real person" blogs I visit. I can totally understand your desire to be more private, though. There are always nasty people online, aren't there? It seems they ruin it for everyone. I used to visit a really beautiful blog that was like a haven, but she got some creepy followers and decided to close down her blog.
Praying for you and for the Lord to make it clear what you should do!
~Heatherj
I don't think you should delete your blog. I don't get a chance to stop by often but when I do, your blog truly blesses me. You are such an inspiration and you have the most sweetest spirit which transpires across the web. You love God and your family and it shows. Keep up the good work. Your home is YOUR ministry.
As for the haters, they are just your elevators. Unfortunately, we live in a world with those who get pleasure from tearing down others but to God be the glory. They just make God shine ever more and push us in the direction that we need to go.
As for the info, I would just not disclose my last name, addresses, etc. but don't stop blogging.
Love you! (hug)
Rather than taking down your blog, have you thought about doing a search on your blog for your children's names and deleting them? Or deleting your state? I knew of one blogger who did that. That way she kept her blog but deleted all the personal info.
I know of some bloggers who blog with their full names and put their children's names on there, and sometimes a link to their church even. I have to admit that's a little to much beyond my comfort level.
I also removed the ability to post anonymous comments and it does cut down on some rude comments that you'll get.
Since you are receiving criticism that is neither constructive not asked for, I imagine that the person's goal is not to help but to hurt. Perhaps your blog posts are convicting them and they don't like it.
Hurting people hurt people. Doesn't make it right, of course. But the fact that it's anonymous lets you know that they themselves know that what they are doing is not something they'd want known.
Wow, that was a confusing sentence but hopefully it makes sense! Hugs and I am sure your hubby will give you some great advice!
~ Nan
DeNiece~ Please don't let some not nice people keep you from blogging. I don't see anything wrong with saying your name or your kids names. You are a very real and honest person and your blog has helped many people. Me being one of them. I am praying that you will continue with your videos, cause I really like them, makes me feel like I am visiting you via your blog. What does it matter that people know what state you live in. You just stay real and don't let other people dictate what you do. Take it to the Lord and do what you feel is right. I will keep you in my prayers.
Blessings,Joann
Oh Deniece, I was saddened to read that anyone would send you hurtful messages.
This is my third or fourth visit to your blog (got here by way of Candy at Keeping the Home). Every time I check in, I'm so uplifted by your words and the delightful house tours. You demonstrate love, made visible in the way you honor God and care for your family. The mean-spirited coward(s) who chose to tear down, rather than honor, a sister in Christ only prove the ugliness that results when acting out of fear and separateness.
Though I don't have a blog, I can easily understand your concern. You have received good suggestions from folks who have experience with such offenders. Perhaps after a few changes (even a new blog) to help ensure safety and privacy, you will feel the joy of sharing your writing again.
You'll be guided in your decision; you know God has your back, and you are loved.
Jean
Hi Deniece, I'm so sad to hear someone hurt your feelings!!!! You have to remember there are some miserable people in this world and when they come across someone as positive as you they just can't stand it!!! I hope you don't close your blog. I don't leave comments as much as I should but you don't know how many times you have touched me and I really mean that. You have a pure heart and personality and have the ability to be a witness for the Lord. Please don't let a mean spirited person ruin that.I LOVE your video's they brighten my day and I hope decide to continue them. But I agree don't give out names or where you live. Good luck with your decision!!
Blessings,
Dana
If you do remove I understand as faithful reader. But I totally understand as I have been stalked in my past not internet life my blog is very bland and plain so its really for me to just vent. But it is nice to see a Proverbs 31 woman in action. Thank you for letting us see a slice of your life.
Well, I'm sad for us that read your blog, even though I mostly just lurk and don't comment because I always think I'm in too much of a hurry. But I understand, you have to do what is best for you and your family.
I do want to just give you one pat on the back before (if) you do go. I think you are one of the sweetest bloggers around, and I can't believe someone would say your blog was superficial and fake. The first thought in my mind was, "What? They have the wrong blog!" That said, I am the first one who will give up on a blog if I feel like it the writer is not being real.
I started coming here after seeing one or two of your comments on another lady's blog. Since then, I have given up on the other blog, but I still come here to read what you are doing, and I'm excited for your new house. I think your blog is very encouraging. You do not seem to put on airs, but it is obvious to me that you care very much about your home and family.
Even if you do quit, I am glad that I "met" you and got to know you a little. It makes me glad to think that there are other homemakers out there who are just serving God and their families the best that they can!
no!! I like your blog a lot! maybe just don't use names and don't tell where you live etc. Maybe take down photos of your family but leave up the videos that don't have the kids in them.
Oh No! Don't discontinue blogging! I understand if you need some to privatize some things, but please don't stop blogging. I enjoy your videos and not once did it ever cross my mind that you were displaying to much.
I display pics of my family and give their names. The only reason I don't put up any videos is because I don't know how yet.
When I tell others about your blog, I refer to you as my friend. Because I really do feel that way. You have blessed me and so many women with your blog.
There's always going to be advocates for the devil that are going to try to tear down God's work. I feel that you are truly an inspiration sent by God. Your life is a shining example for many of us to follow. Without your blog and your videos (which I love), you'll leave a serious gap (for lack of a better word) in the blogging world.
I don't think anyone can get anymore real that you have. To me, you are a true Prov.31 woman and your videos help to give instruction to those of us who have taken a little longer to catch on (smile). You also show a side of African American women that we don't normally see anymore. So few of "us" try to bring God into our homes and take care of them the way we should. So many of "us" are caught up in the corporate world, trying to get ahead and losing sight of God's original plan. Or "we" are caught up in trying to be "hip" and "fly" and not realizing what our true roles are. I remember getting excited when I first found your blog, because you were so different from most women I grew up around. You actually remind me of a young version of my mom, who loved the Lord, her family and her home. Yep, with me, you're up there on that pedestal!
Anyhoo, I know that you have to seek God's answer on this and I will be praying for you too. Remember you have a true friend in TX and if you do decide to quit, please email me! I'll send you my email address. I don't want to lose touch with you!
Be Blessed!
~Chondra
I am so sorry to hear that you have had these nasty comments made by cowardly people who don't even know you...yet they feel they need to judge you. It's so sad.
I truly enjoy your blog, although I may not comment often but I do visit frequently and enjoy my time here. But ultimately you have to do what is best for you and your family, so if you stop blogging I will miss you but will respect the choice.
~Mrs. M
I have to agree with sunshine.. no more anonymous comments. Girl.. I was wondering why I wasn't' getting updates from your blog, and now I know why. For some reason I wasn't following. Now that I am.. please don't give up on your blog.
Watching your videos. I'm so glad y'all are settled in and enjoying your new home!
Take Care!
I am so sorry that some people have made you feel like this.Your blog is the one I most enjoy. I think you come across as lovely person.I really hope you don't stop blogging or stop your videos.God bless you and your family.
MRS T.
Oh, I'm SO glad you're keeping your blog!
Praise God for your willingness to seek your husband's advice, the Lord's leading, and your willingness to not just disappear without letting us know what is in your heart.
You're the Real Deal, Deniece!
Blessings to you and yours,
Heatherj
aww, don't stop blogging. do be more careful with the info you give out, but don't stop blogging. you are so sweet and your blog is very fun and heartfelt.
Deneice, I am so sorry that some people are being rude to you. I LOVE your blog!!! I especially love that you're so real and down-to-earth. You are so very sweet and have A LOT to offer other christian ladies. I am so very thankful for all I've learned from you.
God Bless,
Amy
Wow girl, you scared me for a minute there, LOL. Your blog is one of my all-time faves, and I was very excited when you starting doing the room by room home tour. :-D
I don't give my children's names, nor do I show their faces - unless it's a somewhat anonymized picture. I don't disclose what state I'm in, or even if I'm still in the U.S.
I don't think you've been too open, but you may want to not give out your state and such, if you do - just in case.
Meanwhile, ignore those anonymous cowards who complain about your blog and leave nasty accusations. That's not your battle - it's theirs with their own conscience. They are the ones with the problem, and you need not pay any attention to their snide remarks, but simply hit that "delete comment" button, and pray for them. :-)
I am SO glad you are not giving up, after all. Someone should tell those people what my mom always said, that "if you don't have something nice to say, be quiet." God bless you and your family!
I've just read your update.I'm so happy that you are going to carry on. I'm so blessed by your blog,as I know are many other ladies.
My 5th baby is due a couple of months after your new little girl,so I especially enjoy your baby updates at the moment.
Thankyou DeNiece.Be blessed
Mrs T from the UK
I just want to let you know that not once have I thought you were superficial in any way. I know of more than a couple blog authors who I believe are putting on a "JOYful" act, but I've never felt that about you. You seem to be one of the most sincere, genuinely loving, genuinely filled with the love of Christ people I have ever "met." You radiate the love of Christ in a way that I've never seen, in real life or on the internet.
I hope you don't discontinue blogging, but I understand if you do. Please know you will be missed, and I wish you and your family nothing but the best.
To De Niece: you are genuine. As much as everyone has urged you to stay: you go with how "you" and your husband feel led. Not by any other voice. You are too adorable.
To prayzgod: honey. Everyone knows where abouts you live. No offense.
De Niece: my middle daughter lives not far from you. She has read here from her local library. For her own sense of safety, and although she understands why people blog: she won't blog. She loves the Lord. She likes your page as well but echoes the sentiment I shared above.
Do for your family first. Always.
Not that I think you should do anything for me but...
I LOVE your blog! You are so real and connect so well through that camera. I really feel like I know you...even though I'm a stranger to you. I have enjoyed my time getting to know you. You have spent alot of time with me when I needed a lift.
My children and I have talked alot about the power of our words and how we use them. I truly understand how hurtful and even careless words and can roll about in our heads. When your struggling with them, please re-read the comments from those of us who truly like what we see in you and be encouraged by them.
I would honor what ever you and your husband decided was best for you and your family, but I would miss you very much :-)
With or without the blog and camera you just keep on doing what your doing! Your great!
From a stranger who feels like a friend,
Lenni
PLEASE.PLEASE.PLEASE Dont stop bloggin. you are such a blessing to me and i know to many others, i love that you share the ups and downs,the good- the bad. the rights and wrongs of your life as we can so relate to you, i prefer someone like you who doesnt try to seem perfect or as if you've got it together 100 percent of the time because truth is we none do. i do however have problems with others who act as if they've been saved in the womb, glow in the dark and quote scriptures all day. you are genuine and i so admire that in you .girl keep on bloggin and be the blessing you are to so many. just pray for those who leave those ugly comments but please dont let them interfers with the good you do and the blessing you send to us. i look to your blog each mornin to see what deniece has to say or show today. you hang in there and let God weed-out the trash.. love ya
Deniece, I don't think I've ever commented on your blog before, but I have read it many times. You are always so genuine and real...it is refreshing to read a blog like yours. I am glad to hear you will keep on blogging, at least for now.
Your words have lifted me up so many times. I have often wished we were friends in real life. You are one of the most genuine bloggers I know. Please don't leave!
Mary in TN
Your blog videos have given me inspiration many times when I have been unmotivated about my house work. So thank you for opening your home to everyone. I really enjoy your blog, and hope that you don't have to stop. =)
HUGS!!! =)
When your trying to do anything for the lord, satan always tries to get in your way.
Chin up!
Trisha
Oh DeNiece I am so sorry that the enemy has been after you- we know he HATES the family. You have been so uplifting to me for the last about a year. Your love of your family and your home help me so much. I hope you will feel you can keep blogging but I understand needing to protect your family. God bless, Angela
So glad you aren't giving up your blog- I have enjoyed it and just became a follower!
So glad you are keeping your blog- I have enjoyed it for awhile now and just became a follower!
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